Dear Tell All: I visit a local dry cleaners a couple times a month. The woman I'm used to dealing with is about my age, and a babe. Though we've always been friendly, in recent weeks I've sensed that she's moved beyond friendliness into flirtation. That would be great news, but for a complication.
Another woman has started working at this place, and she's just as appealing as Hottie #1. She's there about once a month when I come in. I feel a bit more comfortable talking to Hottie #2, but really, I'd have a hard time choosing which one I like more. My problem is that I'm fairly shy and usually have trouble making the first move.
Here's the part where I need your advice. I got a jacket back the other day and found a note pinned inside. It said: "Fellow coffee fan –– want to have a cup with me after work one day?" That's a reference to the fact that I usually come into the shop with my big travel mug.
It was thrilling to see this note, but guess what –– it wasn't signed! That means it could have been from either Hottie #1 or Hottie #2. I suspect that neither is aware of my flirtatious conversations with the other one, so whichever woman sent the note must have assumed I'd know who it was from.
How do I figure out which one it was? I'd be happy to go out with either hottie, but given the complications involved, I'm not sure how to approach one or the other.
Cleaned and Pressed
Dear Cleaned and Pressed: You're overlooking the obvious solution: Discreetly ask both women out. If one of them blows you off, you'll know she didn't send you the note, and no harm done. You'll still have it made with the other woman.
If both of them eagerly accept your offer, go out with both and decide which one you like best. Am I missing a downside here?
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