Dan Savage
Real people, real sex
Sex advice columnist and kink guru Dan Savage won’t be in town for this year’s HUMP! Film Festival. And that’s making Savage jealous because he misses the town where he launched “Savage Love.” more
Carolyn Fath
“Let Pulse end tolerance for bigotry”
Dan Savage was in Madison when news broke about the mass shooting at an Orlando gay nightclub. He recorded this response at Isthmus on Monday. more
Dan Savage Q&A at Isthmus
Dan Savage started writing his advice column, Savage Love, in 1991 while still living in Madison. He returned to the city in early April and, while in town, stopped by Isthmus for a Q&A session with staff writer Dylan Brogan. more
Joe Newton
Slight Christmas
TFW your porn Tumblr is outed at your family Xmas celebration. Plus, why porny Tumblr is actually good, this week in Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Cringe and purge
If you have an intense “cringey” sensation when you come, you may have a medical problem. And if your wife doesn’t want to know if you’re playing around, don’t ask her again before you go on a business trip to Hamburg. more
Joe Newton
Shake that moody
How can you tell hypersexuality mania versus ordinary kink when you have a bipolar I diagnosis? Is drag as antifeminist as blackface is racist? That and more in this week’s Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Stressfest
You want to make money by being an escort, you want a boyfriend, and you don’t want to tell him. It’s complicated! This ethical dilemma plus a bisexuality/monogomy quandary and more this week in Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Bound and gagging
There are safe ways to learn about the bondage scene. Plus: how to make time for a time-consuming kink that’s not even yours, this week in Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
What ain't broke
It’s only a problem if you choose to regard it as one. Words to live by, in this week’s Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Floored
What is a pelvic floor and why should you care? Also: open relationship with trans woman and a shy straight woman in love with a almost-still-closeted gay guy, this week in Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Meow and forever
This week in Savage Love, Dan offers advice on kitten play, unfriending a jerk-off friend, and running into (or avoiding running into) your students on (ulp) dating apps. more
Joe Newton
Jacks
A man recovering from sexual abuse finds healing and release at a men-only masturbation event. But then one of his employees shows up. more
Joe Newton
Quickies
My parents were married for almost 40 years before she passed away. Recently I discovered that my dad had affairs with men while married. Do I tell him I know? more
Joe Newton
Hearts and Minds
Is there a way for a committed, loving couple to reignite the sexual spark after a two-year drought? Why, yes there is, says Dan Savage. more
Joe Newton
Needs and deeds
Age 62 is no time to throw in the towel on a satisfying sexual relationship. Plus, parsing cuckolding and saying no to a manipulative husband, this week in Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Fresh starts
After an ungiving ex, how can NOPE cope with Mr. Amazing Moves? How to tell a new girlfriend you’ve been masturbating to the “wrong things”? That and more in this week’s Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Gay and lonely
This week, it really is advice to the lovelorn in Savage Love. Dan props up shattered egos and gets extra advice from Michael Hobbes. more
Joe Newton
Shooting stars
This week, Dan tackles various power-dynamic problems in a cuckold fetish scenario, advises a guy dissed during a bondage hookup, and speaks to etiquette in varsity-level fantasy play. more
Joe Newton
Quickies
There are many reasons a woman might want to give blowjobs and recieve nothing in return. Also: is masturbating to Dirty Roulette “cheating”? Answers to these quandaries and more in this week’s Savage Love. more
Joe Newton
Pickles and surrogates
Surrogate partner therapy is a therapeutic treatment that combines psychotherapy with experiential learning. Don’t call them sexual surrogates. more
Joe Newton
Secret perving
A D/s relationship that involves others hits a wall – questioning the ethical responsibility toward the others the couple secretly involve. And there’s some stuff going on with a woman, her husband-to-be, and his boot collection. more
Joe Newton
Après pill, le déluge
Libido explodes after giving up the pill and NuvaRing, what’s up with that? And sometimes a wedding present is just a wedding present, notes Dan Savage. more
Joe Newton
Differences
Gay? Straight? Makes no difference. Leave your contempt at the door, suggests Dan Savage in this week’s “Savage Love.” more
