Dan Savage
Real people, real sex
Sex advice columnist and kink guru Dan Savage won’t be in town for this year’s HUMP! Film Festival. And that’s making Savage jealous because he misses the town where he launched “Savage Love.” Read more
Carolyn Fath
“Let Pulse end tolerance for bigotry”
Dan Savage was in Madison when news broke about the mass shooting at an Orlando gay nightclub. He recorded this response at Isthmus on Monday. Read more
Dan Savage Q&A at Isthmus
Dan Savage started writing his advice column, Savage Love, in 1991 while still living in Madison. He returned to the city in early April and, while in town, stopped by Isthmus for a Q&A session with staff writer Dylan Brogan. Read more
Joe Newton
Workmates
There’s a difference between secrecy and privacy. Polite ways to insist on a pic. And strategies to turn a grad school friendship into something more. Read more
Joe Newton
Overfished
There are many perils to catfishing. Especially if you fall in love. Plus: PIV sex is not always all that. Read more
Joe Newton
Parts and parting
A cis man attracted to trans women seeks some educating. So does a kinky trans man. And nobody should put up with assholes just because they’re hot. Read more
Joe Newton
Revolution Hall
How to deal with apologetic sex, casual sex, anal sex and even more kinds of sex, this week as Dan Savage answers questions live at Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Read more
Joe Newton
Crazy switch Asians
What is the line between racism and certain race-based attractions? What’s the deal with later-age attraction switches? Read more
Joe Newton
The sins of the grandfather
To what extent is a family member responsible for airing old abuse from within the family? Dan Savage discusses this within the context of the recent "Finding Neverland" documentary on HBO. Read more
Joe Newton
Loaded question
Edging etiquette, a curious top, and a woman apparently more concerned about her stolen sex toys than her stolen dogs, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Outer limits
How to support your sister and nephews when your brother-in-law is secretly bi-. What not to put up with when dating a closet case. Read more
Joe Newton
Consider the (extra) lobster
What should “with extra lobster” mean? What do you want it to mean? Read more
Joe Newton
The doll
Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. But be cautious. Dan Savage talks kink, sexuality, and disability awareness this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
Have you heard of a sock-and-sneaker fetish? Perhaps you should. That, sex-positive abstainers and With Extra Lobster, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Omissions and emissions
Just because you have an IUD doesn’t mean you don’t want your partner to wear a condom, and with good reason. But should you lie about the IUD? Dan Savage discusses good reasons to lie, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Furry Road
Sexual compatibility is something you need to iron out before marriage, people! This week, a furry dilemma, a peeing problem and some wise words on the cuckold lifestyle. Read more
Joe Newton
Big little lies
A SPH fantasy is not a reality check. A new love bringing up the “having kids” issue six months in is not rushing things. This week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Men and women
This week in Savage Love, three guys just aren’t getting it when it comes to intimidating and demeaning women they claim to love. Dan reads ‘em the riot act. Read more
Joe Newton
Lost Kinkster
Queer and niche and fetish communities are struggling with the Tumblr ban on NSFW content. And the rule at ANY swinger party should be Ask Before You Touch. Read more
Joe Newton
Two breakups, one brake on
What is a “soul mate” exactly? And various thoughts one should have before dumping one’s S.O., this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
How to avoid submissive guys when you just want dominant ones in your FetLife profile, snark about a vibrator and more repartee, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Slight Christmas
TFW your porn Tumblr is outed at your family Xmas celebration. Plus, why porny Tumblr is actually good, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Cringe and purge
If you have an intense “cringey” sensation when you come, you may have a medical problem. And if your wife doesn’t want to know if you’re playing around, don’t ask her again before you go on a business trip to Hamburg. Read more
