Dan Savage
Real people, real sex
Sex advice columnist and kink guru Dan Savage won’t be in town for this year’s HUMP! Film Festival. And that’s making Savage jealous because he misses the town where he launched “Savage Love.” Read more
Carolyn Fath
“Let Pulse end tolerance for bigotry”
Dan Savage was in Madison when news broke about the mass shooting at an Orlando gay nightclub. He recorded this response at Isthmus on Monday. Read more
Dan Savage Q&A at Isthmus
Dan Savage started writing his advice column, Savage Love, in 1991 while still living in Madison. He returned to the city in early April and, while in town, stopped by Isthmus for a Q&A session with staff writer Dylan Brogan. Read more
Joe Newton
Boundaries
Dealing with teen’s sex drives is a touchy issue. Sometimes, it’s better to stay hands off. Some advice this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Open wide
Is there such a thing as “too much” fisting? What are positive options for pegging? Find out this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Physical ideal
You’re “pretty average,” you don’t fit your S.O.’s “ideal type,” he doesn’t want to have sex, and he follows a lot of “suicide girls” on Instagram. What’s up? Read more
Joe Newton
Come the revolution
Pleasure comes from taking control of what you need and when you need it. This week in Savage Love, Dan tackles the problem of selfish lovers and the psychology behind some kinks. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
Bukakke, unicorns, jizz and all that jazz, in this week’s “quickies” edition of Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Shrinkage
Does penis length diminish with age? Do guy orgasms get more intense as guys get older? These concerns and more this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Boundaries
Certain things are forgiveable in a newish relationship. This isn’t one of them. Dan talks transgressions this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Hard truths
Can a marriage survive when one partner wants BDSM and the other doesn’t> Dan Savage talks with Wednesday Martin Read more
Joe Newton
Fingering it out
In a relationship only somewhat kinky, what if the Dom wants a little partnered prostate play? That and more this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Deep cucks
Why cuckolding? Who knows what turns us on. This week in Savage Love, Dan talks with David Ley, a clinical psychologist, author, and sex researcher. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
Some dilemmas can be solved rather quickly, actually. Dan Savage deals with exes who are besties, boner pills and more this week in Savage Love. Read more
Prejudicial statements
Consider racial attitudes carefully when it comes to sexual stereotypes. And when it comes to a big-city-neighbor-open-windowshade flirtation, well, you never know until you ask. Read more
Joe Newton
Tie points
Introverted, shy gay kinkster can’t seem to find his tribe. Dan Savage has some commonsense advice. Read more
Joe Newton
Why not me?
When you’ve reached a sexual impasse, it’s time to re-assess. Little play can present big quandaries. And there is a way to keep things shiny and new in a relationship. All is revealed, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Shop around
It’s a post-SESTA/FOSTA world. How does one find a reliable sex worker? Plus info on a used gym shoe query, and just who can deservedly shop at Mr. S Leather. Read more
Joe Newton
Baby soft
Dating, when your fetish is diapers. Dating a long-distance asshole, and whether one should listen to one’s mother’s advice on the topic, when there are Daddy issues. Read more
Joe Newton
Seattle & Denver
Terrible weddings, sex with friends, fetish parties — Dan answers the letters he didn’t get to during recent live appearances. Read more
Joe Newton
Hard Feelings
This thing I have with my best friend is not sustainable as it is, although I love her deeply. Read more
Joe Newton
Disclosed
Combating the herpes stigma is complex but sometimes necessary. Soul-searching is on the table this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Best wishes
Bad and wrong. You know you shouldn’t, but you want to anyway. You wish it were true, but you know it’s not. Dan lays down the hard truth this week in Savage Love. Read more
