Dan Savage
Real people, real sex
Sex advice columnist and kink guru Dan Savage won’t be in town for this year’s HUMP! Film Festival. And that’s making Savage jealous because he misses the town where he launched “Savage Love.” Read more
Carolyn Fath
“Let Pulse end tolerance for bigotry”
Dan Savage was in Madison when news broke about the mass shooting at an Orlando gay nightclub. He recorded this response at Isthmus on Monday. Read more
Dan Savage Q&A at Isthmus
Dan Savage started writing his advice column, Savage Love, in 1991 while still living in Madison. He returned to the city in early April and, while in town, stopped by Isthmus for a Q&A session with staff writer Dylan Brogan. Read more
Joe Newton
Consider the (extra) lobster
What should “with extra lobster” mean? What do you want it to mean? Read more
Joe Newton
The doll
Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. But be cautious. Dan Savage talks kink, sexuality, and disability awareness this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
Have you heard of a sock-and-sneaker fetish? Perhaps you should. That, sex-positive abstainers and With Extra Lobster, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Omissions and emissions
Just because you have an IUD doesn’t mean you don’t want your partner to wear a condom, and with good reason. But should you lie about the IUD? Dan Savage discusses good reasons to lie, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Furry Road
Sexual compatibility is something you need to iron out before marriage, people! This week, a furry dilemma, a peeing problem and some wise words on the cuckold lifestyle. Read more
Joe Newton
Big little lies
A SPH fantasy is not a reality check. A new love bringing up the “having kids” issue six months in is not rushing things. This week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Men and women
This week in Savage Love, three guys just aren’t getting it when it comes to intimidating and demeaning women they claim to love. Dan reads ‘em the riot act. Read more
Joe Newton
Lost Kinkster
Queer and niche and fetish communities are struggling with the Tumblr ban on NSFW content. And the rule at ANY swinger party should be Ask Before You Touch. Read more
Joe Newton
Two breakups, one brake on
What is a “soul mate” exactly? And various thoughts one should have before dumping one’s S.O., this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
How to avoid submissive guys when you just want dominant ones in your FetLife profile, snark about a vibrator and more repartee, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Slight Christmas
TFW your porn Tumblr is outed at your family Xmas celebration. Plus, why porny Tumblr is actually good, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Cringe and purge
If you have an intense “cringey” sensation when you come, you may have a medical problem. And if your wife doesn’t want to know if you’re playing around, don’t ask her again before you go on a business trip to Hamburg. Read more
Joe Newton
Shake that moody
How can you tell hypersexuality mania versus ordinary kink when you have a bipolar I diagnosis? Is drag as antifeminist as blackface is racist? That and more in this week’s Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Stressfest
You want to make money by being an escort, you want a boyfriend, and you don’t want to tell him. It’s complicated! This ethical dilemma plus a bisexuality/monogomy quandary and more this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Bound and gagging
There are safe ways to learn about the bondage scene. Plus: how to make time for a time-consuming kink that’s not even yours, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
What ain't broke
It’s only a problem if you choose to regard it as one. Words to live by, in this week’s Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Floored
What is a pelvic floor and why should you care? Also: open relationship with trans woman and a shy straight woman in love with a almost-still-closeted gay guy, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Meow and forever
This week in Savage Love, Dan offers advice on kitten play, unfriending a jerk-off friend, and running into (or avoiding running into) your students on (ulp) dating apps. Read more
Joe Newton
Jacks
A man recovering from sexual abuse finds healing and release at a men-only masturbation event. But then one of his employees shows up. Read more
