Dan Savage
Real people, real sex
Sex advice columnist and kink guru Dan Savage won’t be in town for this year’s HUMP! Film Festival. And that’s making Savage jealous because he misses the town where he launched “Savage Love.” Read more
Carolyn Fath
“Let Pulse end tolerance for bigotry”
Dan Savage was in Madison when news broke about the mass shooting at an Orlando gay nightclub. He recorded this response at Isthmus on Monday. Read more
Dan Savage Q&A at Isthmus
Dan Savage started writing his advice column, Savage Love, in 1991 while still living in Madison. He returned to the city in early April and, while in town, stopped by Isthmus for a Q&A session with staff writer Dylan Brogan. Read more
Joe Newton
Shop around
It’s a post-SESTA/FOSTA world. How does one find a reliable sex worker? Plus info on a used gym shoe query, and just who can deservedly shop at Mr. S Leather. Read more
Joe Newton
Baby soft
Dating, when your fetish is diapers. Dating a long-distance asshole, and whether one should listen to one’s mother’s advice on the topic, when there are Daddy issues. Read more
Joe Newton
Seattle & Denver
Terrible weddings, sex with friends, fetish parties — Dan answers the letters he didn’t get to during recent live appearances. Read more
Joe Newton
Hard Feelings
This thing I have with my best friend is not sustainable as it is, although I love her deeply. Read more
Joe Newton
Disclosed
Combating the herpes stigma is complex but sometimes necessary. Soul-searching is on the table this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Best wishes
Bad and wrong. You know you shouldn’t, but you want to anyway. You wish it were true, but you know it’s not. Dan lays down the hard truth this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
In what other column can the topic of discussion swerve from “hotwifing” to plate tectonics in 500 words? We know of none other than Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
The liked boys
At first I just thought my friend’s dad might be into dudes. Now I’m afraid he might be a pedophile. Read more
Joe Newton
Workmates
There’s a difference between secrecy and privacy. Polite ways to insist on a pic. And strategies to turn a grad school friendship into something more. Read more
Joe Newton
Overfished
There are many perils to catfishing. Especially if you fall in love. Plus: PIV sex is not always all that. Read more
Joe Newton
Parts and parting
A cis man attracted to trans women seeks some educating. So does a kinky trans man. And nobody should put up with assholes just because they’re hot. Read more
Joe Newton
Revolution Hall
How to deal with apologetic sex, casual sex, anal sex and even more kinds of sex, this week as Dan Savage answers questions live at Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Read more
Joe Newton
Crazy switch Asians
What is the line between racism and certain race-based attractions? What’s the deal with later-age attraction switches? Read more
Joe Newton
The sins of the grandfather
To what extent is a family member responsible for airing old abuse from within the family? Dan Savage discusses this within the context of the recent "Finding Neverland" documentary on HBO. Read more
Joe Newton
Loaded question
Edging etiquette, a curious top, and a woman apparently more concerned about her stolen sex toys than her stolen dogs, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Outer limits
How to support your sister and nephews when your brother-in-law is secretly bi-. What not to put up with when dating a closet case. Read more
Joe Newton
Consider the (extra) lobster
What should “with extra lobster” mean? What do you want it to mean? Read more
Joe Newton
The doll
Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. But be cautious. Dan Savage talks kink, sexuality, and disability awareness this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
Have you heard of a sock-and-sneaker fetish? Perhaps you should. That, sex-positive abstainers and With Extra Lobster, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Omissions and emissions
Just because you have an IUD doesn’t mean you don’t want your partner to wear a condom, and with good reason. But should you lie about the IUD? Dan Savage discusses good reasons to lie, this week in Savage Love. Read more
