Dan Savage
Joe Newton
The long game
Sure, when you get busy, kinkly cuckolding plans can get shoved aside. Or...is it intentional? Plus: Gaslighting during a breakup doesn’t do anybody any favors, this week in Savage Love.. Read more
Joe Newton
Sub space
Could a sub be using BDSM as a form of harm reduction? How can a shy late-bloomer cope with sexual frustration? Dan Savage has the advice in this week’s Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Quickies
This week Dan Savage tackles a bunch of shorter questions. Should one's SO delete NSFW photos of their ex? What about oil-based lubricants and condoms? That and more this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Bottoming out
Respect the bottoms of this world, tops. Also: how to deal with a troubling voice on a phone-sex party line, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Open ended
Words of wisdom: People who are bad at monogamy don’t get better at it once they’re married. That and some biphobia, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Bloody business
Blood in semen may be harmless, but see the doc. Reading the fine print in a dating profile? Mandatory. Read more
Joe Newton
Kink monsters
Vanilla lover wants to be paid attention to by kink-obsessed hubby. What’s the obvious answer? Dan goes there in this week’s Savage Love. Read more
Quickies
The hot guy on the bus is also a smoker. You don’t want to be the creepy guy who slips a note in his backpack offering him a very special smoking cessation program….do you? Read more
Joe Newton
Bluff calls
Intimacy-reluctant and sex-shy husband is manipulating wife so he doesn’t have to deal. And dating an escort isn’t all roses, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
That professor
Should a professor walk a thin line with regard to getting involved with students? Does an emotional affair do good or harm? This and more in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Sissy that talk
Hard truth: There are always going to be more people who want to get with Domme women than guys who want to get with/be serviced by submissive heterosuckual cross-dressers. Read more
Joe Newton
The man show
Dan Savage navigates the troubled waters of an ill-defined non-consensual-sex situation. Plus, several straight white men are in need of some dating advice, this week in Savage Love. Read more
Quickies
This week, Dan Savage weighs in with a series of quickies. Get the good word on everything from picking to packing. Read more
Joe Newton
Cheaters club
Two inveterate cheats fall in love via a hookup app. What could possibly go wrong? Read more
Joe Newton
Standards
How pervasive is the yearning for monogamy? What do you do with your dead loved one’s porn? And what’s wrong with a May-December Grindr match? Answers to all in this week’s Savage Love. Read more
Three city swing
Dan Savage was recently in Madison, as well as Chicago and Minneapolis. Here he answers questions he couldn’t get to at his live shows. Read more
Joe Newton
Crossed off
A polyamorous perplexity. A cross-dressing papa. And a foray into FinDom/FinSub Twitter. Questions asked, advice delivered, all this week in Savage Love. Read more
Joe Newton
Boundaries
Dealing with teen’s sex drives is a touchy issue. Sometimes, it’s better to stay hands off. Some advice this week in Savage Love. Read more
Real people, real sex
Sex advice columnist and kink guru Dan Savage won’t be in town for this year’s HUMP! Film Festival. And that’s making Savage jealous because he misses the town where he launched “Savage Love.” Read more
Carolyn Fath
“Let Pulse end tolerance for bigotry”
Dan Savage was in Madison when news broke about the mass shooting at an Orlando gay nightclub. He recorded this response at Isthmus on Monday. Read more
Dan Savage Q&A at Isthmus
Dan Savage started writing his advice column, Savage Love, in 1991 while still living in Madison. He returned to the city in early April and, while in town, stopped by Isthmus for a Q&A session with staff writer Dylan Brogan. Read more
